I cannot/choose not to dance in the "sexually provocative" way that is so en vogue these days, however...

my boyfriend of very many years can't help but put on his bumpin'/grindin' dancin' shoes every time a beat comes on. I'll play along with him a little, but unless I am intoxicated, I choose not to partake in moves that imitate acts best kept behind closed doors. Often, we will be out with a group of my friends, %26amp; a song will come on %26amp; everyone will start dancing. My boyfriend will get into it, and friends of mine will always manage to shimmy their way on over to my boyfriend. They'll dance, which is OK to a degree, however it becomes awkward when (1) I am left standing there by myself %26amp; (2) the dancing starts to resemble sex with clothes on. To be honest, I would rather my boyfriend not dance with my friends, but I am not going to make a big fuss over it, because I think I would be considered to be overreacting %26amp; also because I know he absolutely adores me %26amp; is not truly interested in my friends besides the dance. Has anyone else dealt with a situation like this? More details...

I cannot/choose not to dance in the "sexually provocative" way that is so en vogue these days, however...
Tell him you are not comfortable with the physical contact when he dances with your friends. I think that's fair. See if it helps the situation at all. Reassure him that you trust him, and you're not accusing him of "almost cheating" with your friends or anything like that... it's just this one aspect of his behavior that you would like him to change. If he backs off a little, but the dancing still bothers you, then go from there. Good luck!
Reply:Ok. You ask you got it. Get the hell up and make your man feel like he is yours. All I gotta say. Tell me what are you afraid of?


Figure that out and you will be so glad you did.
Reply:I'm sure you know you can't have your cake and eat it too.





You don't want to do the vertical mumbo with him and that's fine. But then you really can't complain when he does it with someone else.





Don't be too surprised if he's really into dancing that he ends up replacing you for someone that likes to dance with him.
Reply:So you don't want to dance in that way. That's absolutely fine. But accept that he enjoys dancing and that is just the way that he dances. You don't have to dance with him, but you can't expect no one else to. It's really just dancing. I know that those moves look like something awful, but if he really wanted to be with those girls, he wouldn't come back to you immediately after. Maybe just talk to your friends about it, if you don't want to talk to him. While he's dancing, finding someone to talk to would be good. You need to show that you don't need to be with him to feel comfortable. If he is comfortable dancing with other people, you should be comfortable doing your own thing while he does that. Then he won't feel that he is stopping you from enjoying yourself. Because thats what seems to be happening. While he is enjoying himself, you sit there worrying about whether he wants someone else. You need to show that you trust him and are comforable with his dancing, even if you aren't.
Reply:First of all, it's not ok for your friends and your boyfriend to do that. Even if it's "just dancing." Tell him that it puts you in an awkward, uncomfortable position and that it also hurts for you to see him dance like that with your friends. Even though you know that his intentions are simply to dance (even if you don't know, say that) he needs to understand how you're feeling when you're standing by yourself (emphasize this part) watching him bump and grind with your good friends.





On the other hand, you should make an effort to dance with him as well. Relationships are full of give and take as I'm sure you know.





If you talk to him about it and he continues to dance with your girlfriends.. then I would say leave him. He obviously doesn't love you or care about you or respect you enough.
Reply:He's got dancing fever! Hell I went fishing the other day and caught a fish.That was cause to do some dancing right then and there. People looked and I was like...what? You never seen anyone dance before? Driving home I saw some dude dancin' to his car's stereo while he was driving and I shouted at him from the other lane....You go guy!!!!
Reply:yes,,,more than once...he is getting off on your friends, and you are letting him, would it still be okay with you if he were bumping and grinding, at home with no music on, with one of your friends, i think not, so why is it okay on the dance floor, i would never let my man rub his member on my girls butt, not gonna happen, let him know that you don't like it, and more or less, tell your friends that it completely wrong that they disrespect you and rub their as s on your man member, I hate that type of dancing from anyone, mainly, because my niece would not have her 17th B-Day, because the person that was Chaperoning said no dirty dancing, she just wanted to act hoe-y so bad, that she decided not to have it...sick huh...i guess that's why she has a baby now....trust me, if he respected you and your friends...he wouldn't be rubbing up on them, much less in front of you,



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